Adoptions

dissolution of adopted son

Maxxsmom — Sat, 04 Sep 2010 03:46:15 GMT

I would like to know if anyone can help. My husband and I have adopted three children. I have two fifteen year olds which we got when they were six and we also have a four year old son that we got when he was six months old. We have been foster parents for ten years. The one fifteen year old has been in trouble with the law since we got him . his bad desicions have only escalated over the years . He started stealing small stuff and has over the years graduated to stealing all of my estate jewelry (5,000 dollars ) to stealing a neighbors caddillac and running away with it for two weeks and trashing it (6,000 dollars.) and also tons of legal fees for myself and my husband. We have stood by him all this time and he was sentenced to 6 months in RTC for the car theft. While in RTC it came out that he molested my 4 year old son and we have done everything we can to find out what to do to dissolve the adoption. It was investigated by social services and was substantiated. he was also convicted in court on gross sexual imposition that was reduced from a rape charge. Social Services has said he cannot return to our home because the victim is in the home but I cannot get an answer as to what i am supposed to do to reverse the adoption.

Adoption/Birth Certificates in Louisiana

nancygraz — Fri, 27 Aug 2010 15:49:28 GMT

My half-sister, Lynda (deceased), was adopted by her mother's new husband when she was fairly young (not sure of her exact age). They were all residents of New Orleans, and the adoption was done with her/our biological father's consent/knowledge.

I recently obtained a copy of Lynda's birth certificate for geneological purposes and was surprised to see her adoptive father's name listed on the birth certificate as her father. Is it standard practice to update birth records with the name of the adoptive parent, thus replacing the biological parent's name?

Given that Louisiana follows the Code Napoleon, I was particularly surprised to see this (i.e., specifically wrt adoptive children's being entitled to a share of their biological parents' estates even after adoption.) Unless, of course, I have been supplied with (intentionally) erroneous information, such as the adoptive father was, in fact, Lynda's biological father. This would also then explain a lot of other things ;-)

Thanks in advance for any assistance/guidance you can provide.

Nancy

Daughter may have been adopted by her stepdad

justinrhodes — Tue, 24 Aug 2010 01:00:53 GMT

I found and was contacted by my ex wife after 8yrs only for her to tell me that her current husband has adopted our daughter. This has taken place in Tennessee. Anyone know if I have any recourse?

Step parent adoption

Liz0224 — Mon, 23 Aug 2010 01:49:35 GMT

I have a 8 year old daughter that has not seen her biological father since she was 6 months old, child support is garnished from his social security because he wouldn't willingly pay. I would like for his parental rights to be terminated along with the child support so my husband of 8 years can adopt her. What do I need to do to get this started, all the court is telling me here is to do a dutiful search for the father in the local paper that states the child will be adopted but they don't know what needs to be stated in the paper. Any ideas? Please help.

Grandparent Adoption and struggles with social services

tzertuche — Thu, 19 Aug 2010 18:48:27 GMT

I am writing to you on behalf on my family, and the injustice that has been brought upon us. We desperately need your help to regain custody of my precious two year old cousin. I’m sure that you will find that with all of the evidence that we have presented you in our Formal Complaint, that our family is not only a suitable one to raise a child, but also a family that does not ask for a monthly welfare check to put our country into an even worse debt.

The injustice that I speak of is the fact that, Social Services removed my cousin from the home that she shared with myself, my grandmother, my sister, and my father after almost the two years that she spent here. She was removed on the grounds that my grandmother was too old; with too many health problems to be able to raise child in a stable secure environment. My grandmother is 74 years old with no health problems, other than high blood pressure and high blood sugar. In her grand lifetime, she has raised five children, two adopted children, and two grandchildren; "me and my sister".

The two adopted children were actually through Social Services itself. If she was good enough for them, then why isn’t she now? She is one of the most goodhearted, wonderful, loving, caring people I have ever met and all she wants to know is why she is no longer to be a part of her grandchild’s life? In my opinion, "she was never even given a chance to share her opinion on her well being". She was never even given the opportunity to adopt her grandchild as her own.

We do not feel that Human Services is a bad institution, or have bad feelings towards them, but we do not feel that they made the right decision in this case. This institution is in definite need of reform and education, but not abolishment. "We are not a bad family". We have been unjustly judged on menial things. My grandmother has outlived two of her daughters who died in their 40’s and a son who died in his 50’s, but also her parents who lived to be well into their 90’s. There is no telling when a person will pass, but it is unfair of anyone to assume that my grandmother will die before they have given her the chance to raise her. If anything," it feels that she has been sent to her death when she was removed from our home".

We have spent countless hours, thousands of dollars, and more tears then any family should have to cry to try to get her back. "All for what you may ask"? To hear that we as a family are not good enough to raise our own flesh and blood. My grandmother never asked for a dime from any state agency, never asked for food stamps or any other form of government assistance. This country is in trillions of dollars of debt from welfare alone. Putting one more child in the system may not make a dramatic change, but I can assure you that it would not help our countries debt issue. We ask absolutely nothing, other than to have her returned to our family.

I know that you are a remarkable and intelligent man and that you were also raised by your grandmother. I’m sure that she had the biggest hand in molding you into the grand, powerful, and successful man that you are today. The entire family is just asking for that chance for her to come home and be with the only family she ever knew.

I want to thank you for your time, because I know that it is valuable. "Please help us". We have run out of options, and desperately need your help. Not only does your county need you, but your people need you, "we need you". If you could simply look over the enclosed information and just give us the chance, we would appreciate more than you could ever imagine."

This is the letter that I wrote to president Obama after almost a year of my family struggling with social services to received custody of my cousin. We have gone through several attorney that refuse to put up a fight against social services as well as a private organization called the GRC. It has been a year since I have been able to even see my cousin. As of right now her mothers rights were terminated and her appeal was denied. If any one has any advice I would greatly appreciate it. If any more information is needed feel free to ask. I am at my wits end on this. All I want is to have her back

im adopting my soon to be step daughter

jedwards — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 18:25:02 GMT

I will be adopting my soon to be step daughter, we will be married in 3 weeks. we have the paternal fathers consent for me to adopt her. what is the fastest way to go about this process. Thank you.

James

adoption/name change

moods58 — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 18:38:22 GMT

Does a parent need to sign off his/her rights of a 18 year old child, who decides to be adopted by a step parent and change last name, before adoption can be valid? thank you, j.

Adoption question NC

exbarani — Sun, 15 Aug 2010 01:20:28 GMT

i have half custody of my 4 yrs old daughter , and visitation rights, and pay child support, but my ex-inlaws do not want me to be part of her life on regular basis and have been mentally abusing her....i am wondering if i can i just gave up and ask for adoption to her grandparents? for the good of my daughter........what will be process & can i get childsupport break also?

Adoption Question-Ohio

kstewart74oh — Sat, 14 Aug 2010 10:05:02 GMT

I need to know if anyone has any information or know of anyone I could contact for my case. I have a son that has NO father listed on the birth certificate. He is now almost 9yo. I had got married and divorced since the time of his birth. This man was his step-dad. We were together from the time he was born, but married when he(my son) was about 3 years old. We ended up divorced though, as I said. So, now we haven't been together these last few years, however, I've allowed him visits. My son's biological dad is unknownst to me. I have no way of finding out as it was just a mistake I had made in my younger years. Anyway, we would like for my ex husband to adopt him now-remember he is NOT the biological dad though and there is NO ONE listed on the birth certificate. Does anyone know where I could go for this or do you have any advice?

Thanks in advance.

adoption records from Japan

Kimi13 — Tue, 10 Aug 2010 21:39:20 GMT

I was wondering how one would go about finding adoption records for someone born in Japan in 1954..lived in an orphanage until adpoted at age 2-3.... we don't know the city... then brought to the U.S. Is there anyway to get these records without more information?

Thank you, Kim

Adoption of foster children

kayottdre — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 02:58:02 GMT

In the state of Washington, can foster parents file for and/or get an adoption finalized prior to the birth parents rights being terminated?

vacate / annulment of adoption

RL76765 — Wed, 04 Aug 2010 19:03:12 GMT

Is it possible to vacate / annul an adoption?

background: I was adopted as a child and am now an adult. My Biological mother re-married and her husband adopted my sister and self. My mother had divorced the adoptive father many years ago and she has since deceased. My biological father is still living and agrees to my desire to vacate / annul the adoption.

I have no contact with the adoptive father, (though can locate) and the main reason i wish to do this is that i was abused by this person and do not wish to carry this persons name.

contesting adoption

moods58 — Mon, 19 Jul 2010 19:04:15 GMT

Is it the right of a father in New York State to contest the adoption of his child and is there a waiting period before adoption is final? j.

Non-US citizen and adoption

Rocktosh — Mon, 05 Jul 2010 03:24:09 GMT

Just curious, can a non-US citizen, green card holder, adopt an American citizen child?

stepmom adopting husbands son

arabianqueen — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 20:00:37 GMT

biological father wants me (stepmom) to adopt his son 13, (mother is deceased ), we have been married for over 4 years , residents of illinois what are the procedures ? son is fine with me adopting him we asked him what he would like . we want to avoid heavy costs , can we do this pro se ? or limited attorney use ? as there is no other parent to contend with ?. thank you

I Do want to do this also I ADORE his son,,

Adoption advice needed.

Wanda_4 — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 03:53:27 GMT

Hi, my name is Wanda I am a childcare provider and a single mother of three children. I have a friend/ client that had 3 out of her 5 children living with her in a deplorable condition which lead all three children to be placed under my care by Children & Youth for three months until the case was resolved. A couple of months later when the situation was over, She became pregnant of her sixth child and decided she wanted to give the baby up for adoption. I called her and asked if she wouldn’t mind if I adopted the baby. Her answer was ‘well yeah why not’. Well on December 22, 2009, my friend Alba and I accompanied her to the labor room where she was going to give birth of the baby. It was the most beautiful moment of my life. I looked at Keyla right in her eyes and told her ‘Keyla don’t do this she is a beautiful baby, I am a mother of three and had made it all by myself without the support of a father or any man. I am proud to say I have raised them alone. Why can’t you?’ And she replied, ‘no, I don’t want her’. As her friend, I was very disappointed. How can a mother refuse to a piece of her just like that? The next day she was released from the hospital the child’s father and I picked her up and the baby. Since that day until now, the baby has been under my care. I have provided the baby with everything a baby can possible need without Keyla’s (biological mother) support. Well thanks to her decision this baby is the happiness in my home. My children were so happy that a baby was coming home. The baby is now six months old and I really want to process the adoption but I don’t know where to start. The only person who has until now helped with the support of the child has been the biological father. He has agreed to the adoption and also to voluntarily provide child support for her. If you can just direct me to the right path, I will appreciate it.

Step parent adoption of foreign born step daughter

Che Guevara — Thu, 24 Jun 2010 18:51:16 GMT

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I am a US citizen living in Maine. I am married now to the mother of my stepchild. I want to adopt my wife’s daughter from her previous marriage. How can I take steps to adopt my wife’s daughter now, although both mother and daughter are living in China? I have been living with them and working in China for 4 years

My wife is a citizen of the PR China. She was married in 1997 and divorced in 1999. Her daughter was born in 1998. Although the biological father had custody under the original divorce, the father did not support his ex wife or daughter with any money, clothing, school fees or other expense during this time. The divorce document had many errors and clearly confused the names, birth dates and other details of the parties.

The biological father effectively abandoned them and my wife took responsibility to raise and care for her daughter, pay for housing, food, clothes and school fees. By mutual agreement in Spring 2006, with her former husband, my wife has full custody of her daughter and is now solely responsible for her expenses. We have a notarized agreement to this effect but it was not submitted to the local court. The daughter is on my wife’s household register since spring 2006. They both have passports. We have briefly travelled outside of China in February 2009.

We were married in December 2005 and since August 2006 we have lived together in China where I work. We are now applying for US immigration. Both my wife and daughter have passports. We lived together for four years in China. The father is allowed to visit under the 2006 agreement but has not done so since the agreement in early 2006. My wife and daughter both support my adopting her and have written statements to that effect.

We are all living together in China until we can all move permanently to the USA. Although my wife and daughter are still in China, I want to begin the adoption process now. My wife believes if I do start the adoption process now it will increase the likelihood that her daughter will be able to accompany her to the USA without delay or separation. While my wife has custody we worry that her former husband may somehow block our emigration as spite or just plain meanness. My wife’s daughter sees me as her father as also wants me to adopt her and move with her mother and me to the USA. Since she is over 10 years old, under Chinese law, she has the right to make her preferences known and considered in this situation.

How can I take steps to adopt my wife’s daughter now, although she is still in China?

What tried so far… the father in China has refused to sign an agreement to allow his daughter to leave the country and move to Maine where I have a home. He has not seen her in at least four years. He is abusive (physically) towards my wife and has no other known children. Is the existing agreement under which my wife has sole custody and is solely responsible for her care and support sufficient to allow her to take her to the USA?

Adult adoption British parent Swedish adult child

GodsBabyGirl — Thu, 27 May 2010 12:18:27 GMT

I am trying to find out what laws govern the adoption of an adult Swedish citizen. She does not intend to live outside Sweden at present. I wish to be her adoptive mother. I am a british citizen living in South Africa. After searching the Internet for months, we have not found a single page or any advice on how to go about the adoption and in which country/countries we would need to apply. Can anyone help me?

Adopting back now adult children and/or nullifying an adopti

MrsHep — Fri, 21 May 2010 01:44:08 GMT

My husband's children were adopted away from him when they were quite young. The adoptive father was a vile man and put these kids through some real horrible stuff. Now they are all adults they are looking for a way to remove this vile man from any of their legal documents, and from their lives forever. Two of them live in Washington State and one now resides in Utah. Would their best option be to have the adoption nullified? If so, how do they proceed? OR --- would it be better for my husband to adopt them all back through the Adult Adoption procedure? If so, where do we begin? We live in Alabama and are willing to do whatever it takes to make this happen for these guys. Please help us with any information you may have!

Can a mom get rights of absentee dad terminated?

Rocktosh — Thu, 20 May 2010 07:10:04 GMT

My husband has a friend, R, who has two minor daughters that live with their mom and their stepdad. R and his ex-wife has been divorced for close to ten years and since they got divorced he has had very little contact with them. Originally the mom, who is Japanese, took the kids back to Japan but after a couple of years she moved back to the US and got remarried to another American. In the meantime R moved to Thailand to study and teach English. He claimed that part of the motivation for the move there was to be closer to his kids but during the time they were all in Asia he never saw them.

Even though the kids are now back in the US he has decided to stay in Thailand. He's been back here, once for over six months, but only saw the kids once. He makes no effort to have a relationship with them and although he used to pay child support regularly it's only sporadically now. He'd make a good candidate for a deadbeat-of-the-year award.

The step-dad is being a dad to the girls and he wants to adopt them. The mom has asked R to sign them over but so far he hasn't agreed to do it. I'm wondering if she would be able to get R's rights terminated so that the stepdad can adopt the girls based on the fact that R has very little contact with them and is not involved in their lives? Or does R have a right to be their legal dad even though he makes no effort to be a dad? So far the mom has been waiting for R to sign the papers but is that really her only recourse?

I'd appreciate the input.

Will Adult Adoption Protect My Husband?

Yangzi — Sun, 02 May 2010 23:12:27 GMT

I want to know if adult adoption is the way to go here. I'm asking on behalf of my husband and sister-in-law and their step-father who wishes to adopt them. It's a long story, but to summarize (and I can always elaborate if needed), the biological father is in a nursing home and the family members that have POA have threatened to sue my husband and his sister into paying for all his expenses based on this law in California&nbs... "Filial Support" laws. At first, I wasn't concerned because we don't live in California - but then I saw a news article where some ladies in Florida got sent the bill from a nursing home in Philadelphia for their mother. Link to article here: http://bulletin.aarp.o...

I know some people may feel a need to ask why I do not want to help my husband's biological father. There are many reasons (history of abuse, he didn't want to take care of himself so he ended up in nursing home, ect) and because of these reasons I do not feel it fair for my husband to have to pay for them. Not to mention, my husband and I are only 23 and students and we don't even have a place of our own yet.

I want to protect my husband and his sister so I wanted to look into this. I was wondering: If my husband's step-father adopts my husband...will that protect my husband from being forced to pay for his biological father's bills and debts?

Thanks in advance.

Step Parent Adoption

ShellyH64 — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 03:26:51 GMT

Hi My name is shelly and i was wondering what legal advice i shoul dknow or whatever. ok so here goes, i was dating the horriable guy for a few years we where NEVER married and never wanted to be he used to beat me up and hurt me while i was pregnant with my children, well i had two children by him and he put his name on b.c. Well i finaly left him and moved from ohio to arizona to my mothers house. he knew here i was and what i wanted to do he agreed and wanted me to go, so anyway i married a wonderful man and now he wants to adopt my two children, it has been two years sense the sperm doner i like to call him has talked seen or anythingof the children they are 3 and 2, he has never paid child support or had to we have never been to court for anything for the children i want to know EVERYTHING about what my rights are and his rights are and how we can furthure the adoption of the children without the "sperm doner" involved if he doesnt need to be i am lost!!! PLEASE HELP!!!

step parent adoption in SC

hismrs — Tue, 11 May 2010 15:00:41 GMT

We would like to do a step parent adoption. The biodad is willing to give up his rights. It will be uncontested. How easy/hard would it be for us to do this ourselves without getting an attorney? Where can we find all the paperwork for it?

Thanks

Adoption

Dave Metheny — Wed, 05 May 2010 13:47:57 GMT

I live in Arkansas but my children are in Wyoming. My ex wife has limited all contact between myself and my children. It is a severe stage three PAS case. I now have been notified by email from my ex that when my daughter turns 18 she is going through the adoption process and being adopted by her stepfather, whom she has only known 2 years. Now having two other children in that house hold of 10 and 12 years old, I don't want this to happen....can she legally get adopted at 18 without my consent? I think this is a ploy to get me to relinquish all rights to all three and allow all three to get adopted which I am unwilling to do. I have not seen these kids in last 18 months but 1 time for 4 hours, because there is always a reason for her to move visitation and conflict the schedules.

thanks

Adpotion in Texas.... Please Help

Butterfly_Kisses — Sat, 08 May 2010 20:03:39 GMT

My neice has given birth to a baby on 5/3/2010. She has placed the baby for adoption. She and the father signed the papers 48 hrs after the birth; and the adoptive parents have the baby now. However; she is wanting to revoke the adoption due to the fact a family member said they would take care of the child. Is this possible? It there a 10 day clause to revoke the adoption process?
Please respond

thanks!