visitation for money

dad was blackmailed into terminating parental rights of son - he was promised that if he signed off - he wouldn't have to pay child support (adoptive father would) however he could still have relationship with child. THAT BOTH OF THEM ENJOY.  now mother has divorced adoptive father and is receiving a lot of child support (adoptive father has NO contact with child) she is now extorting money from natural father for visits.  i.e. You pay medical bills or you won't ever see him.  (has done this with me, the grandmother, also)  Is there ANYTHING we can do to make sure actions are in the "best interest of the child"  Child is 11 - wants to have visitation with father (who gave up rights) and with grandparents.

Just need to know how hard to fight or if I need to get another job to see my grandson.

and if dad needs to sell home to see his son.

Thank you for your time.

abra

If he terminated his parental rights, he has no legal standing at all to seek visitation, and neither do you.

The child is legally no longer related and the courts will not order visitation.  

I agree with SPlum.

He has no rights.

However, the child will soon be a teenager. And in a few years will likely have enough ability to get around on his own.

Dad's choices:

Wait till the boy is old enough to make his own decisions or pay for the privelege of visiting.

Going into hock for lawyers isn't going to accomplish anything but make the lawyers happy on the way to their banks.

No lawyer will be happy on the way to the bank as you don't have any legal standing to file for anything.  If you chose to pay for the right to see the child- that would be up to you.

abrakay:

dad was blackmailed into terminating parental rights of son - he was promised that if he signed off - he wouldn't have to pay child support (adoptive father would) however he could still have relationship with child

Dad gave up his rights; it's hard to feel sorry for a father who wants visitation (and claims to love his child!) but doesn't want to support it.

He made a deal and any $ he gives up to see his child is not illegal under the circumstances; a decent father would be happy to help out.  She doesn't have to let him see his child at all, as he is now a legal stranger to the child....Dad should have consulted a lawyer before terminating his rights. 

If I were he, I'd be honored to support my child and have a loving relationship with him.

Once he agreed to termination of his rights he lost any legal standing with regard to that child.